Dating Smart & Not Falling Apart

To date or to not date, that is the question?

Dating can be a very stressful process if you take it too seriously. Often it seems that people overshadow the experience of having fun and meeting new people by becoming consumed by the notion of finding 'the one' to fill the void.

Let's face it, we all have to kiss many beasts before we find true beauty. The important thing to remember when dating is that you have the power to choose! If you begin to notice things that irritate you or turn you off of someone, I suggest you don't waste your time. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so don't allow dating to become a frustrating process. Dating is all about YOU having fun, learning more about what you desire and find attractive in a companion.

Don't get discouraged by the amount of schmuks you'll meet on the journey who'll make you wanna rip your hair out! Keep faith and have fun! As Madonna says 'don't go for second best, put your love to the test!' Keep a positive attitude and remember that you need to find someone worthy of your love and attention.

South Asian Heritage Month Open Mic @ Buddies in Badtime Theatre

Yo all!

Yours truly, alongside Toronto's finest East Indian talent will be coming together to make your mind feel like a fresh cup of chai. The last installment was a great success at the Toronto Womans Bookstore, so come get your freaky think on!!

Xxo

P!nk: "Sober" live on Australian Idol

I love me some P!nk!! She is the sexiest tom boy in the universe!!! It also helps that she can rip the roof off with that firey Aries voice -- SING!!

Paranormal State & Signs from Beyond

So my latest TV obsession is Paranormal State. For those who are skeptics, those of you who are non-believers, if this show doesn't change your perception then nothing will. I have always believed in ghosts, I have seen possession with my own eyes and heard stories from my friends about being haunted, these vary from regularly to sightings.


Possession is a unique circumstance and once you have seen it, it is hard to forget it. I think those who are pious and pure in vessel are the most susceptible to channel this kind of a force within themselves, willingly or unwillingly.

I think the misconception about ghosts is that they are evil and out to harm, when in fact they are just attached to the idea of being alive, or being around those who are sill alive. While evil does exist in life, it also does in death. I do think that when you die, your spirit stays within the carnation of what it was when you last lived; if you were evil, your spirit will also linger in evil. For whatever the reasons are, some spirits don't cross-over, whether they feel protective of their previous homes, or they feel connected to someone that is currently residing there.

I think it is to narrow-minded to rule out that your spirit doesn't have carnation beyond death. If you have faith and hope in change, I think it's feasible that you accept that forces that are larger than us, or that we can't see with our eyes can exist.

I also believe in demons, much like we battle our own demons on a personal level, I think that non-tangible demons are a creation of thousands of years of history and an accumulation of negative acts, thoughts, beliefs and manifestations across cultures. Demons show themselves in the manner of being aware of what you fear, much like being aware of our insecurities. More often than not, religion and religious iconography challenge these forces because they represent the faith of the living. Thus religiously sanctioned practitioners and emblems of faith challenge these demonic existences. Whether you are Christian, Hindu or Chinese, all cultures use the faith of their religious or spiritual practitioners to challenge the unseen forces of evil.

I leave you with an episode of Paranormal State that deals with demonic possession, and even leads into a full exorcism. If this catches your attention, you will be interested to know that there is a Return of Six episode that follows. Remember that believing does not always mean seeing.

Kardia Consort

Still motion. A punctured organism of its own. Steel casing.
Throb. Hand on my chest.
Fall apart, on my sleeve.
Bypass go, collect grief.
Open. Ready. Beat. Beat.
Protected. Rushing.
Evidence of microscopic inflammation.
Can't live without working, pumping.
Quicker wounds, slower, weaker, wiser pattern, stronger.

Welcomed into your cradled, paused embrace.
Longing for thee.

A Week in Review; Scene to Obscene

What a wonderful week I have had!!!!!
I have always thought that life is one peculiar journey--you never know what the universe has is store for you until it arrives.

I have recently started a new position at the Harbourfront Centre, as a Programming Assistant. I will be involved in making 4 festivals happen this summer season in Toronto; Beats, Breaks and Cultures, Canadian Voices, Island Soul and finally, the Hot and Spicy Festival. I am so very excited, the Habrourfront Centre is a hub for artists working to support other artists. So come out and play and check out the schedule for this season here.

So from culture, my week ended with fashion. As you will see if you have been keeping up, I have been writing for a new online mag called Paper Doll Girl. What adventures in fashionland this has led a fashionista like me to over the past weeks! A few weeks ago I covered Mass Exodus: Chiarcoscuro at Ryerson University (a review of the show can be found on PDG), and it was soooo creative and inspirational. Yesterday my next conquest of fashiondom was FAT (Toronto Alternate Fashion and Arts Week) which was held in the Distillery District.

With the theme of "BEYOND" as the guiding principle, the night was full of some weird and wildly abstract depictions of the future of fashion. Again, for my full review check the PDG website in the next couple days. This was one of the most unique experiences I have had when it comes to fashion/art shows!

Finally I ended the night with late night bevie at on Church Street at Byzantium. What I saw I was not prepared for. I mean it really takes a lot to phase me, but yesterday I was stunned. I was enjoying a drink sitting and chatting with a friend when I looked over and saw some dude pulling his pants down, the guy beside him then proceeded to pull his dick out. Yes no lie. I saw full-on bareback anal...I...ya...WTF?!!! I mean as a queer I have seen many things, but this was just a CRYYYME! The guy fully got his ass pounded in a corner of a club is fullsight of everyone. No class for the desperate of ass?

It gets better/worse. I swear at this point I was trying not to look but I couldn't help myself! The dude that had his dick up the other dudes ass then sucked that very same dick!!! Yes, yes y'all, for real. A few seconds later a security guard flashed them with light and they were told to pull up their pants and leave. I am aware that there were many people at Byzantium on drugs, drugs, drugs,(yes they wear their sunglasses at night) but this was ever so shady!! Harmless Etards don't scare me, however unprotected bareback sex in plain sight does.

So from culture to fashion to trashing...that is my week in review. Can you beat it?!

Evolution to Change

She never knew where she was going, but she knew that she didn't want to stay in the familiarity anymore. The things she loves, had loved and would always love she carried with her everywhere she went. Similar to how one carries good luck charms in his/her pocket, or around his/her neck. Closely with these experiences against the burn of her skin she walked on with what she knew now. Redundancy had grown indifferent with her evolution to change, her search for herself...for more than what she had settled for in the past. More than what she had unleashed in creativity to express herself, release herself openly. She knew the only way to be free was to never give up on the misunderstandings, the mishaps, the miseducations and misery; they had all brought her closet to a state of grace within her own search for fulfilling her destiny. Moments, people, happiness within any given instant had come and gone. She was here to stay.

Queer Urban Jams in TO!

Yo!

Here is my Xtra article on Polly Watkis-- a friend, and urban party promoter in Toronto.

Click here.